“Am I Good Enough?” 3 Reasons Why You Doubt Yourself.

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1. We Think Fitting In is Belonging
Wherever we go, one persistent concern we have is fitting in. So much so that we associate fitting in with belonging.

Fitting in usually involves conformity and pressure to shape our behavior into something more acceptable within the community. It’s about finding a connection to be accepted.

Belonging, on the other hand, should come naturally and you shouldn’t have to be trying hard to fit yourself into a different mold. It’s a connection and acceptance that is genuine and meaningful.

Why fit in, when you can stand out and belong?

2. We Define Success as an Outsider
The grass always seems greener on the other side. But not if you water yours.

This is exacerbated with the prevalence of social media portraying only good moments. We are exposed to others’ apparent joy that causes envy to creep into our minds. While this could be a good thing that spurs us on to achieve greater things, we’re also susceptible to letting feelings of inadequacy consume us.

Success is subjective. What makes us feel successful is an outcome that makes the process worth it. We shouldn’t allow others to place their standards upon ourselves and we shouldn’t define our success using someone else’s either.

Do the things that keep you meaningfully engaged in your own life and you’ll exude natural confidence and self-belief (different from arrogance).

3. You Don’t Want To Let People Down
This concerns our reputations and the expectations of us. The bigger or more exaggerated these are, the greater the pressure on us to deliver. And yet, these influence us to create higher expectations of ourselves which leads to self-doubt. This is exacerbated when people around you claim that you’re “acting humble.”

To avoid the disappointment and increased self-doubt from aiming high and falling short, focus on making things easier for yourself.

Turn your attention inwards and isolate yourself from the external pressures that make things incredibly difficult. Focus on doing your best and trust that it is enough.

Trust yourself.

While we may occasionally land ourselves in these pitfalls, such is life. Just get back up, be the best that you can be and always strive to be a better version of yourself. Don’t let self-doubt hold you back from reaching your potential.

Written By Robin Loh

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“Motivating You one step at a time.”

Robin Loh is The Bulb Culture’s latest contributor and is best known for his weekly motivational post “Midweek Motivation” and other great content over at “Readers Digress“. Follow him on Twitter to let him know that you enjoyed this post @rlym1606

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Work Time > Relaxation Time

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For a lot of people doing absolutely nothing is a dream come true. They don’t have to use their brains to think, they don’t have to use their limbs to move around and they don’t have to do anything to progress in life because they have no big vision for themselves.

It’s sad that there are some individuals out there who simply sit through life but there are. So a few days ago I decided to do the “normal thing” and simply relax. What I found out about myself was pretty incredible.

I turned on Netflix and tried to watch a movie but 20 minutes into the movie I got bored and I started thinking about business. Later I decided that I would sit down and read something outside of the self-development genre, but I couldn’t. And I also tried to simply close my eyes and shut everything else off but I couldn’t do that either.

What I learned about myself was that for me working and progressing towards my goals is a form of relaxation.

Maybe you have the same thing?

Written By Jacob Rozanski

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Jacob Rozanski is a Life and Employee Engagement Coach, Professional speaker and Entrepreneur based in Ireland. Here is his official website www.jacobrozanski.com

Fake it till you become it

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It’s been a while since I took some time to sit down and try to recharge my batteries and regain my verve. The good thing is it’s because I’ve been busy putting myself out of my comfort zone and pushing myself to better my hosting skills over past two weekends. The bad thing is it’s because I’ve had less time and energy to gather my thoughts and put them in words to share with you.

Truth is, after every event I’ve hosted, I reflect and discover areas of improvement and inadequacy. Sometimes, I think about the experience and lifestyle and wonder if I was really suited to be an emcee. I don’t always enjoy the spotlight shining on me nor being the subject of scrutiny. It gets warm, I can’t see who I’m trying to entertain and I am not necessarily comfortable with some of my actions.

So when I saw the video that I shared in my previous post, encouraging us not to fake it till we make it, but to fake it till we become it, I was touched. I love watching moments of vulnerability not because I’m a sadist, but because it’s genuine and sincere. It reminds me that, as much as I’d like to put up a strong and unflappable façade, I’m only human.

I’m not saying I don’t enjoy hosting. I think I do. I mean, why else would I have a second go at the annual auditions to finally begin my hosting journey (I think that’s a story for another post, if you’re interested…)?

In this instance, I think that I enjoy emceeing and am actually not too shabby but my reserved personality seems to clash with the vibrancy the job requires. I also believe that I can be pretty versatile, at the expense of me not knowing my true identity or persona.

Such contrasting feelings come about so often in my life that I really believe that life is fair. One good thing will be balanced by one bad thing, it’s only a matter of when. It’s not all that bad a thought, considering how I can look forward to the next great event in my life every time I experience a setback.

Which brings me back to the video and faking it till I become it. It’s probably more of a steady progression, I have to fake it till I make it before I can actually become it. Right now, I’m probably going against my reserved and shy nature by putting myself out there as an emcee/host. Have I made it yet? I don’t know and I’m not sure if I’m the best judge. But I’ve definitely made strides towards it by adding events to my portfolio (and not receiving any complaints!). Will I ever become a good emcee and host? I’m still thinking about it, seeing how things pan out from here and what opportunities I manage to seize.

It’s always a possibility.

If you, like me, find yourself in a predicament of discovering your identity, the answer can be found by sticking to what we’re doing (fake it) and getting great at it (make it). Eventually it’ll become second nature to us without us realizing it (become it). What we can control is that whatever we’re faking is something that we actually enjoy. That’s definitely important.

The next time someone opens up to you and shares that he/she feels like he/she does not belong, tell him/her otherwise. You definitely should be here, you deserve to be here. You’re going to go back out there no matter what and prove it.

You’re gonna fake it. You’re gonna make it. You’re gonna become it.

Written By Robin Loh

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The Bulb Culture

“Motivating You one step at a time.”

Robin Loh is The Bulb Culture’s latest contributor and is best known for his weekly motivational post “Midweek Motivation” and other great content over at “Readers Digress“. Follow him on Twitter to let him know that you enjoyed this post @rlym1606

If you like what you have read here make sure to give this post a like and follow for more motivational and inspirational posts. Follow us on Twitter for motivation on the go and the rest of our social media links are in the “About” section.

Life’s short, go for it

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It’s incredible how many people complain about the little things or how they actually think that they can afford to put their dreams off to the side. I think that people tend to do this because they feel like they’re going to live forever and that time is an unlimited source. Well that’s where they are wrong.

Recently a close family friend has been diagnosed with cancer and I went down to the hospital to visit her yesterday. She’s staying pretty optimistic but the cancer has spread and the doctors are refusing to go ahead with anymore chemotherapy.

As I saw her laying there something hit me just like the news had hit her. Life’s short and you never know if you’re still going to be here tomorrow. You have got to do everything within your power to turn your dream into a reality. It’s not something which you should do, it’s something which you have to do. You owe it to yourself. I don’t know if I’m still going to be here this time next week, but until then I’m going to give 110% of my heart and soul into everything I do so that I can be proud of what I have accomplished.

Don’t let anything stand in your way. There will never be a perfect time to act on your dreams. There just won’t. The woman which I mentioned is still pretty young and she’s got her whole life ahead of her and I know and feel that when she gets out of this she’s going to act on her dreams and live her life to the fullest. We all are.

Written By Jacob Rozanski

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“Motivating You one step at a time.”

A few years ago Jacob was a video game journalist and ran a blog called WordLoops, until he found his true calling to Motivate and Inspire people all around the world. Which led to the creation of “The Bulb Culture”. He is now a Life and Executive Coach in Ireland and lives each day as if it was his last. You can follow him on Twitter over @JacobRozanski

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Success By Day – Preparation Vs. Action

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“Motivating You one step at a time.”

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Do you give up too often?

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In my book, I redefine failure as a step toward success, so that each time we “fail” at something (in society’s definition of “fail”), we are really taking one more step toward success. Like Edison said, “I haven’t failed 10,000 times. I’ve found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Each one was a step toward creating the light bulb. I adore this idea, because if you simply refuse to fail, and instead continue taking steps toward success, then how could you possibly NOT succeed? Expect set backs, but think of setbacks like Les Brown does: “a setback is a set up for a comeback.”

I always thought of this in terms of “failing” in doing whatever it is you want to do. For example, if you want to be an author, then every rejection from a literary agent is a step. And so I looked back at my life at the ripe, old age of 24, and all of the things I started and never finished in my life seemed like failures, because they had nothing to do with my life’s calling: medical school, formal musician, informal musician, real estate agent…the list goes on and on, my friends.

But then someone smarter than I am told me that maybe those failures were just steps as well, just steps outside of what I was doing. I always had these failures looming over me, threatening me that I would fail again, because it was in my nature. But when I look at these things, I can see that in each endeavor I learned something that is currently helping me do what I love. So how are these not steps?

I wasn’t taking my own advice: see your “failures,” ALL of them, as steps toward your success.

Written By Dan Simms

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“Motivating You one step at a time.”

Check out Dan’s site “Irrational Living” and if you liked what you have read here make sure to let him know by giving him a follow over on Twitter@IrrationlLivng

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Creating a team of “Thinkers”

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I wanted to share something I learned from Napoleon Hill’s incredible book, “Think And Grow Rich.” He calls it a “mastermind team,” but that might be taking it a bit too far. Basically, he says that most successful people (he pinpoints Henry Ford) have a mastermind team, which is a small team of about 6-10 people on whom they rely for ideas and feedback on their ideas. Together, they solve the problems of the company and make decisions.

Kind of like a board of directors? No, actually. This team is not caught up in what will be best for both the company and its customers. Instead, they focus on the business alone, the new products, the innovation, and any problems that may arise. It’s kind of like a business consulting team inside the business itself. Who could be better to solve the company’s problems than the company who is closest to them in the first place?

So I think it’s a good idea to have these people accessible at all times for your own ideas, progression, and work. Choose smart people who care about you but also care about your dream. You may never find someone who is as passionate about your work as you are, but you will find people who get along with you and each other, who can think for themselves and for the group, and who can teach you things you don’t know. Knowledge is power, and there is power in numbers. People who push you forward can be hard to come by, so keep those people in your life. Keep them close.

Written By Dan Simms

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“Motivating You one step at a time.”

Check out Dan’s site “Irrational Living” and if you liked what you have read here make sure to let him know by giving him a follow over on Twitter@IrrationlLivng

If you like what you have read here make sure to give this post a like and follow for more motivational and inspirational posts. Follow us on Twitter for motivation on the go and the rest of our social media links are in the “About” section.