You do not owe them a thing

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In the previous post “move along your path” Dan talked about selfishness and selflessness and how we should implement the two in order to progress towards our goal/dream. In today’s post I’m going to add a little bit onto that and show you how certain individuals can lead you off the path to greatness by exploiting your loving and caring nature.

In one of the chapters of “The Motivation Manifesto” by Brendon Burchard, “We shall reclaim our agenda.” I came across a quote which said:

 “I am not in charge or responsible for the wrecks others have created in their lives and I do not need to save everyone in my life.” 

Certain individuals have the constant need to please every one around them. They offer to help when an opportunity presents itself. They have trouble sleeping at night thinking about if there’s someone out there who might fit the criteria as an enemy, and it’s just the way they are. They’re kind, loving and they wouldn’t hurt a fly. But unfortunately not all individuals are like that, there are also those who will use and exploit those loving souls for their own and personal gain.

It’s the co-worker who is constantly asking for help with his tasks and leaves halfway through, allowing you to do all of his work. It’s the person who once did you a favour and now expects you to do a million others in return.

In relation to favours use your best judgement. If someone brought you a coffee as a favour bring them one later on throughout the day and you’re even. Don’t allow for that one coffee to turn into a never ending task list. If someone once did something nice for you, do something nice for them and you’re even again. Also never let someone trick you into believing that you have not “paid off” your favour. If you feel you have, that’s all that matters.

Remember never let anyone’s tasks or wants sidetrack you from your goal/vision. As Dan was saying from time to time you have to be a little bit selfish in order to go after what you want.

What’s your policy on favours?

Written By Jacob Rozanski

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One thought on “You do not owe them a thing

  1. Right on, Jacob, this is great. It’s a really touchy subject for a lot of people, and for me as well. How do you find that balance between having a big heart and working for your own benefit? It’s really difficult and it’s a daily struggle. The thing that gets me is that there’s expectation on the other person’s part, like you said. I feel like a favor should have no expectations attached, otherwise it’s not a favor. I think that’s where I draw the line. If someone does something for me out of the goodness of their heart, I’m 100% inclined to “return” the favor. But if the favor is done because they want something in return, I feel like that’s just exploitation, like you said. It’s difficult to find that balance between selfishness and selflessness though!

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